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By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:50:58 +0000

I’m glad you wrote about this! Even though I’m young and definitely not ready to get married, I struggle with this sometimes. I always thought I’d finish college, get an amazing job, go to grad school at night, meet the one, get married, etc….just as you said. So now I’ve got my college degree and although I know I want to go to graduate school, I’m out in Aspen working in retail. I’m surrounded by single people much older than me and often wonder, “So when are you planning on settling down…”real” job, getting married…?” I guess I’ve just realized that you just have to take things as they come and enjoy the moment you’re in right now…not to say it isn’t something I think about often.

By: Lexi

Lexi — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:58:31 +0000

This is a really beautiful post, and I can relate to it so well. Lately I’ve been feeling like I’ve somehow missed something, or am in limbo somehow, because I feel as though I’ve become obsessed with getting engaged. My boyfriend and I have been together 5.5 years and have talked about it, so I know that it is coming, but I can’t help but want it to happen NOW and I feel like I’ve become one of “those girls,” who only think about engagements! I am really trying to calm down and be happy with everything else, and find the good in my life, but some days, it isn’t easy at all!

By: Great post!!!

Great post!!! — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:39:39 +0000

This is a wonderful heartfelt post! You are helping more people than you know by putting this out there!!

I am quite a bit older than you and a lot of my “firsts” are long over, but I can remember my “checklist” like it was yesterday. Having checked most things off and having been blessed with a wonderful life and family, I have to admit that planning for the great life is sometimes more exciting than actually living it. I tended to push things, like wanting the ring, the wedding, the house, the baby……the next baby……the next house……the next car…….because the excitement of wanting these things and designing what life would be once i had these things was addicting. I never stopped to think about what life would be like once everything was in place. And while it is awesome and I wouldn’t change a thing, it is not at all as I dreamed or envisioned…..at least on a daily basis its not. Its cleaning, laundry, bills, kids schools, activities, work, etc etc. All the things I dreamed of but totally not as glamorous as my mind made it out to be!!!

I now live by the old cliche “life is a journey, not a destination”. I am excited to not have the next big thing planned out and to just live the life I’m given and see where things take us. Having it to do over again I would tear up my checklist and live life in the moment because you can’t plan happiness no matter how hard you try (except for the happiness I plan each day reading your blog

By: Sole Matters

Sole Matters — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:07:18 +0000

I can identify with this post unfortunately. I tend to think WHEN IS IT MY TURN when all of my friends around me are getting engaged and having babies. I want it NOW. It’s just hard to be happy and let things happen as they are supposed sometimes.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 16:50:08 +0000

I can completely relate to this post. Right now I am so worried about the choices that I make and how they will impact the future of my family. I have been praying and asking for peace so that I can just sit back and enjoy the moment. I am so worried about trying so hard to plan for the next big thing that I miss out on the here and now.

I completely understand about the house situation. My husband I are living in the condo that I bought in college. It has plenty of space for us and I love the floor plan, but I am anxious to move and set up the house that we will bring our children home to. We found the perfect house but then someone put in an offer literally hours before we could. I trust that God has a plan for us, but I am struggling to trust him and not my own plans.

Thanks so much for sharing! You were brave to put this out there!

By: Legallyblondemel

Legallyblondemel — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 01:00:53 +0000

Couldn’t have said it better myself. Yes, yes, yes, I can relate.

Scanning the excellent comments others have left you, I really like that Philippians verse Newlyweds Next Door mentioned. How comforting to know there is a reason for the timing of what we do, even if we struggle sometimes with patience to understand that timing.

By: Mrs. R

Mrs. R — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:08:34 +0000

I am the same way!! As soon as I check something off my list, something else is added. I am slowly learning to slow down and just enjoy life and cherish what you have for that day. God’s timing is always perfect!!

By: ktbtodd

ktbtodd — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:00:16 +0000

Thanks so much for the post and your honesty! I read it and thought, “AHA!” That’s what my struggle is right now. So, thanks to you…another blog post was born of your post. Hope you don’t mind too much…