Comments on: for hudson: from southern living

By: Zammo

Zammo — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 23:02:08 +0000

So where is the list that describes what the man will get in return?

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 17:17:14 +0000

Southern girl is spot on. Many of these requirements have no basis in anything (wear boots) and others are pure entitlements that are antiquated and actually wreak psychological havoc on relationships when men have to defend “a real man would…” comments from his girlfriend who, incidentally, doesn’t know the first thing about reciprocating the social arrangement and acting “like a real woman”. That is, if a man is supposed to do all of this caretaker stuff, than a woman’s responsibility is to remain attractive. That’s the traditional arrangement, the basis which exists in the evolution of the family structure. Do you women really want to be ruthlessly held to today’s standards of attractiveness to gain the ‘benefits’ laid forth in this article? Whoever wrote this article should think harder before feeling so entitled to demand such things, as most American women will not be able to hold their part of the bargain past a certain age.

By: Wolfie

Wolfie — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 21:03:41 +0000

“love, love, love this!!!!! i wish every guy would read and follow this!”
“still looking for this guy”
“I’m printing it out and sending it to my single brother!”
(etc. ad infinitum)

…
“some folks need to take a chill pill”
Yeah.

By: Neo

Neo — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 15:33:30 +0000

Most of the women I meet don’t deserve to be ‘charmed’ or treated in the way you describe.

By: Lou

Lou — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 12:22:15 +0000

Im so glad i came across this site because i thought i was missing something on how to impress a southern gal. I am not from the south i live in Jersey. But i have this crush on the cutest blonde blue-eyed southern girl and we have so much in common but for some reason she is not impressed by the gentleman qualities i give her.
Now you southern gals and guys reading this, I am sure you know someone in the death metal scene because that seems to be a popular thing down there. This sweet angelface is into that death/black/grind metal scene. Even dated a band guy. So is there a seperate set of rules in impressing these type of girls as long as it doesnt require sacrificing a pig? lol.
My guess is that because the music is kinda wild, maybe this type of girl likes the tough guy type? I have seen girls be called b***ch in public by their boyfriends and they have no problem with it. I think some girls whether north or south like a guy who looks and acts like he just killed his parents and if youre polite then youre a dweeb. But going back to this particular girl. Can any of you southern folks who know this type of girl give some tips as to how to catch their loving attention?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:55:49 +0000

It is my truest hope that my son grows up knowing how to respect his elders, women and other men. It is now also my truest hope that he does not go to college with “a southern girl”’s son and does not date any of her future daughters. Love you and your blog Erin!

By: lizziefitz

lizziefitz — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 16:19:17 +0000

Erin, Bravo! I often think the whole world would be a better place if everyone just had good manners. Obviously , we need to start with some of the people who commented. As a mom of 5 , I want to kiss anyone who is kind enough to hold a door for me;0

By: Southern Web Girl

Southern Web Girl — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 22:52:45 +0000

Wow — just read through the comments and I think some folks need to take a chill pill.

By: California Girl

California Girl — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 03:33:16 +0000

Thanks for the interesting post. The post and the comments gave me some really interesting insights. This list doesn’t reflect what I want in a man–to each his own!–but I do appreciate a peek into what’s important to other people and into how passionate people feel about it.

By: Samma

Samma — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 20:14:40 +0000

Erin, I got so tickled when I saw that one of my IRL best friends had this post up as her gchat status! I commented to her about it, and she said “it just really spoke to her”. Me too- I was so irriated when I didn’t pull out this article. It’s all so true- I love when Hubs makes me my favorite drink and brings it to me on the porch. Of course, he likes when I make him a bowl of ice cream when we’re watching tv together. Courtesy goes both ways, but the article was written by a woman so it just discusses male manners. Maybe some of the commenters missed that, as well as the slightly teasing nature of the article.