I was recently asked by Courtney DeFeo , “What surprised you most about motherhood?”
I thought it was an interesting question. It took me a while to think of my answer.
There have been so many things that have surprised me about motherhood and parenting. I am surprised on a daily basis. There are very few things that are actually predictable.
And then it hit me.
Before Hudson was born, I was protective. I think I was mostly protective of myself and my time with him. So many people were eager to meet him and hold him, and all I could think of was how much I wanted to keep him all to myself and with TC. And I didn’t want to ask for help. I was determined to not need help.
I refused help, and was just determined to get it all done myself. Not the smartest plan, really.
Because while that may have worked alright with just Hudson around, it certainly wasn’t going to last much longer when we found out we were pregnant with Hayes.
So what has surprised me about motherhood?
I need help.
I need help and I need wisdom. I need advice and I need support. I need it from the new moms, the experienced moms, and the women who just love my children and love me.
It takes a village to raise a child, right? It doesn’t take a martyr mom who is overtired and bitter because she refuses to accept help.
I need the wisdom, council, love, prayers, and extra hands from the women I love. Some of them have ideas and they’ve been there. Some of them have a sweet smile and comforting hug to offer when things are tough. And some of them have extra hands and lots of energy when I need to get out and run errands.
My boys have amazing grandmothers who would drop anything for them or for TC and me. We have an incredible babysitter who is like family to us now. I have supportive friends who hold my kids and comfort them if they fall down and I’m not there. We have a support system who has loved on us and brought meals or sat with one child when the other had to be rushed to the doctor.
So I think that’s what surprised me most about motherhood. I thought I could be supermom. But I can’t. Supermom, to me, is made up of about 20 other women in our lives and they are the ones that help me keep it together.
God bless them all.
What has surprised you the most about motherhood?