When Hayes was born, Hudson was completely oblivious to his presence. He would kind of look at him, but he never doted on him or fussed over him.
As time went on, he was mostly sweet to Hayes, but I was still just holding my breath, waiting for the day to come when they’d start to act like brothers.
Over the past few months, we’ve heard lots more screaming and more territorial behavior. If Hayes entered the room where Hudson was playing, Hudson would immediately shriek and demand that Hayes leave him and his toys alone.
Of course we encourage him to share, but we can’t force a relationship to happen.
I don’t know about you, but as a mom, I’ve learned that as long as you can hear your kids, you know they’re okay. It’s when it gets quiet that you should start worrying.
But the other day, I went to check on my boys because it was way too quiet. Why wasn’t someone screaming? If they were in the same room together, there had to be screaming.
And when I entered the room, I found them playing together. Silently. I’d occasionally hear a giggle out of someone, but they were playing with the same toys. At the same time. Together.
We’ve reached that point. The screaming and fighting and wrestling will likely never end. In fact, I expect it to get worse.
But in the mornings, the first thing Hudson says when he wakes up is, “Let’s go check on Hayes!” He can’t wait for his brother to get up.
When we go to the playground, Hudson always seems to have one eye on Hayes and then the other eye on what he’s trying to do. But as soon as Hudson can’t see Hayes anymore, he stops what he’s doing to go make sure his brother is okay.
If Hayes is corrected for misbehaving, Hudson immediately comes to his defense.
That’s the brotherhood I’ve prayed for, that I knew would come someday. So I know in my heart that they have each other’s backs. It’s Hudson and Hayes and they’re thick as thieves.
The proof is in the silence.